I have had friends from every walk of life whether they be working class, academics, business owners, baby boomers, the beautiful and angelic, all interesting and unique in their own right.
The act of befriending another is, in itself, an effort to give support to that person, in what is sometimes a difficult journey. If life always continued serenely, then it would be easy to maintain all the relationships we’ve ever made. Life, though, puts our relationships to the test because living life is, by its nature, chaotic.
So, from everyone I’ve known over the years, I’ve come to understand what true friendship is; true friendship requires tenacity and faith where it would be easier to succumb to abandon.
There’ll always be events or people who will tempt the less tenacious to drop others without further thought. In all relationships, there’ll be ugly moments and unbelievable or hurtful things said. Some will choose to work through this rough time together and forgive. Others will give up and flee. The tendency to “drop” others, I believe, is indicative of the automated and oftentimes materialistic age in which we find ourselves, but people are not machines and should be entitled to consideration or kindness. The automated response, on the part of people who want a quick resolution to disagreements or arguments, is a source of anxiety and depression, which convinces people that others cannot be trusted and that it is better to be quiet, or even untruthful, when disagreements arise.
I am proud to say that I not someone who gives up on others easily. Very rarely have I given up on another human being, whatever the circumstances. I have fought for friendships that often left others confused – why was I fighting for a friendship that the other party didn’t care about. I would say that I always fight to maintain the relationships I have because, to me, there has never been a point to having friendships if they were not genuine.
In return, I have been lucky enough to find others who have accepted every part of me, the difficult part, the unreasonable part which wants to rebel against everything society upholds, the part that can be overly emotional.
Though fighting for others does not always guarantee that relationships will be saved, it does show us who values us more and who values us less. When you give others a friendship of faith and love, it is sometimes given back tenfold, and that makes one’s efforts to be a true friend more than meaningful.